Beyond Myths: Embracing Grief

When unfamiliar with this process, many of us try to fit our grief into a predefined shape. We might also have preconceived notions about how grief should be, leading to the dissemination of myths about grief among people.

Let's examine these myths more closely together.

         The most common myth about grief is that there is a right way to grieve. However, this is not true. Every individual experiences grief uniquely. For example, some people cry, while others might scream. Some prefer solitude, while others seek more social connections. In all forms this is totally normal.

         Another common false belief is that only the loss of someone causes grief. In reality, various types of loss can cause grief. While the loss of a person can indeed bring grief, losing a job, a pet, belongings, or even a life role can also trigger grief. Grieving for environmental destruction or the struggles of others is entirely normal.

         Additionally, the misconception that grief is simply an intense form of sadness is widespread. Grief encompasses a range of emotions, including anger, jealousy, gratitude, hope, and joy. Positive emotions can be part of the grief process, and experiences vary widely. Some may have a rollercoaster of emotions, while others find their emotions predictable and consistent.

         Another common myth about grief is that advice is the best way to help someone who is grieving. Despite positive intentions, offering advice can come across as judgmental, impersonal, or insensitive. Being there for them when they need it and reminding them of your care, consideration for their needs, and respect for their wishes are among the best ways to support someone who is grieving.